him staying just means that he doesn't have the stones to move out and begin the D process, he is feeling mighty guilty. Well, you dont' *have* to stay together all the time nor you have to talk R when you are (I spent 6mths living with a man who was a zombie and was able to keep R talk to a minimun-nothing)
Join a gym, a club, something, find what makes you happy, take a class you've always wanted to try, find those old friends you barely talk to (I rekindled old friendships which have been supporting me during my D). LIVE your life. Just like you, I centered my life on my H and home, I didnt' do anything for myself, didnt' go out with friends nor did things I liked. One thing you have to learn is that -gasp~! - you dont' need him to be happy. Yes, with all your heart you want him, but he isnt' the center of your life, he shouln't be at least. Give yourself a timeline, if he still is there with his bs and not willing to work on the M after a while then (depending if you have an apt or house) someone has to go, I totally get you, I'd feel uncomfortable too. Prayers your way, know that you will be ok no matter what.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
