FWIW, I think hot sex in a context in which W doesn't feel responsible for your enjoyment or what kind of sex you have is a lot more powerful cure than IC or MC. Whatever happens, the space has to be there to reinvent oneself sexually -- and that happens through practice, not theory
I was in IC and MC for YEARS trying to get to a good sex life with XH. It got me nowhere. If you want therapy, maybe try a SEX therapist -- something I never did. The run of the mill MC just doesn't really seem equipped to do real SEX therapy.
It was with D and new-H that I found it, through practice
