Hey, Travis, glad to see your thread! There are some great people here!
The OW in my case is going to be D 3 times also, once she gets a divorce from her current husband. Her kids are nightmares I've been told by those that know her. I imagine all the stress the kids have gone through and the lack of attention from their mom prob. contributed to that. I have 2 autistic children and they are both very sweet, good kids.
Re: your wife. I've noticed my H has been very spaced out and almost kind of dumb in some ways. I know I've read here often that As lower the WAS several IQ points, and I have to say I think that's true from what I've seen. My H would freq. say I hadn't told him stuff, we'd have had a several hours argument over something and he wouldn't remember it. Luckily, I have a C and I would talk to her about this and she would validate that I was correct in remembering stuff. I think their brains don't work really well. I've learned to email my H everything so I have a record and he can't say I didn't tell him something.
Also, I think you should drop any talk about Rs or how you don't hate her anymore. First of all, that means you did hate her, and she also prob. doesn't even care that much about you right now. WAS are very self-centered and mostly think about themselves. Focus on you and your boys, and eventually down the road, your W may regain her sanity or not, but you will be better off either way. Karen
