thanks PD, im trying to keep it together. W and I are on a good talking level having nice convos about nothing too important. What now? just leave at that for awhile? as i said she asked me to pick up a couch and drop it off at a friends house for her till she gets back on the 1st and i did it but i wasnt to happy about it at all i didnt let her know that. she keeps asking me for favors... like paying all the bills for her still so she doesnt mess up either of our credit, moving the couches, running her errands cause she is not here to do it. all of this is wearing me thin and ive only been at it for a month. to tell the truth im not looking forward to her coming and leaving the house to move into her own apt, its going to be crushing all over again.