If I've learned anything it's that each situation is unique, but also that Jody usually has a point. So, could you do this halfway and accept the invitation but not stay over? Maybe you're too busy with school etc.? In this way you get to show him the fun-loving Ali, while still demonstrating the fact that you have your own life now, and he needs to show you why he should be a bigger part of it?
You also have the choice in terms of how much you drink. If this loosens your tongue too much could you hold back on this occasion(can't be hungover for schoolwork etc.)? This might also give you a bit of insight as your "ex" is likely to reveal more than you are if he's been drinking a lot and you haven't...
I'd say go with your gut instinct on this one, as long as you are sure that whatever situation you are in you can act cool and calm.
-ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
