WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[MrBond]

volleydog mirrors what I said.

I think you are moving too fast and in fact haven't stopped letting her go. Aside from a day or two, there hasn't been a time over the four weeks that you've left her alone.

You can say that it was her initiating contact, but you keep calling her back and have these long conversations.

I'll put it this way. If you and her were having a perfect life and communicating and getting along great, why did she leave the house? She's still using you as a security blanket and hasn't had to face the harsh realities of "why" she wanted to leave in the first place.

You can say that it's because she was busy with the move, but I don't think so. Most of our WAWs get settled within the first couple of days. She either doesn't want to face what her problem is or isn't ready for that yet. That's why giving her space is really important.

"Now I'm just not sure how to get my wife back....."

I think in every post you say this in one way or another. That's not a way to GAL. That's your ultimate goal as it is with all of us. Put that on the backburner and build your life.