It seems impossible to fight for your marriage when you are the only one fighting.
You said it and I completely agree!
You can only work on yourself and it is up to the other one to choose to see what you've done, who you are, and where you want to be.
Kalni's H is slow to move and completely caught up in his own stuff to even think about her and her needs.
Until then, Sunshine will have to figure out when she's had enough.
It does indeed take two as one can only go as far as midfield and extend a hand. It is up to the other one at that point to decide whether or not to make the effort to come together.
Kalni has been sitting at midfield w/her hand outstretched for quite some time and I'm not sure if H has even left the back end line.