WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

It may be too early for this, if you move too fast she going to push away...As PMA said you asked her let it go, if I had to guess she is probably leaning against lunch but doesn't want to say no. One thing you don't want is for her to go just because you keep asking.

What goals do you have immediately for you? Those are the goals you need to focus on.

You're right - I had brought that up on Friday when she called and I asked today. I know asking today crossed the line. I can't undo the past, but need to make sure I don't repeat the mistake.

I do agree, I don't want her to go just because I asked. I had asked because, as gucci had pointed out in my earlier thread, it seemed like she was poking her head through the door to see what was going on. I was just trying to invite her in.

My immediate goals for me had been:

1 - Go to church (I started the Sunday after she moved out) and join a small group at church
2 - Go to the gym twice/week (I lost 25 lbs through this madness so now I'm trying to keep it off and get fit).
3 - Go out with my friends at least once every 2 weeks (prior to the bomb, I hadn't done that in over 3 years)
4 - Be the best dad I can be for my boys - this means learning to interact with each of their different personalities (my 3 year old is just like me and my 7 year old acts just like my wife, you can guess who I have the problem dealing with).

My longer term goal/project for this summer are (Home improvement and cars are my hobbies):

1 - Redo the car stereo system in my camaro convertible (it's an 88 IROC with the stock stereo where the speakers are blown)
2 - Redo my patio and replace the back steps leading to it