Puppy, if you want to see effort on the part of your W to improve your sex life, look to that email she wrote. I'm telling you it took her enormous effort, and she did it for you and your M and your SL.
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She wrote it because I wrote her first. All she had wanted to discuss was what we were going to tell the kids; it was me who opened up my heart (yet again) and laid it all out there, at WDID's and your encouraging.
And I'm sorry, I've re-read the e-mail five or six times, and I don't see ANYTHING in there that tells me she "did it for our SL". All I hear in there is "I'm scared, I'm restless, but I don't want to take the accountability for being the one to break up our family."
Can you tell me which part of her e-mail, you feel, she wrote to help our sex life?