I agree with what ppenton said - find a L who will work for you and with whom you are comfortable. That will take some time so don't be afraid to shop around. If your employer has an Employee Assistance Program (EAP), they can give you recommendations. Friends who (regrettably) have gone through this in your area could also steer you in the right direction.

Again, time is your ally. Let W's L do all of the heavy lifting while the L you retain is there to review and provide feedback...


Me 52, STBEX 52
D 17, S 12
M 20 years
Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009