Puppy - when I was married, my ex-h eventually CLUNG to the idea that I was LD, because that meant it was entirely something to do with ME, a flaw within me ONLY, that caused me to not want sex with him. In his mind, it was all entirely about me being LD.
He also adopted a position of believing he was superior morally to me. He clung to this as well.
He also believed that he was open to anything, so if I had any sexuality bursting forth from within me, I only had to turn to him, and since I didn't that meant - yet again - that I was LD and that was all there was to the problem.
I found that with his assumptions that this was all my problem, it was easy to believe that myself...so I just followed this idea right out the door so that I could find myself and figure myself out.
Without his willingness to understand his half the dilemma, there was no way to fix it, was there? He watched me walk out the door and was glad to be rid of me, and I still do not blame him for that.
This might be you. You may be happy and relieved once she finally does leave.
But you know the rest of my story....I want it every day of the week and I initiate and try new things, have sex blogs on the SSM forum, and feel like a brand new person. Am I LD? No...I was a mother and wife and I had a husband who did not understand this conflict and who felt morally superior to me. THAT was my sexual problem.
