Reading through all the Gucci Loafer advice (as well as where Puppy chimed in with additional thoughts), and thinking back nore to last night, I can see where I lost control of the sit. I need to get it back. SPecifically, we talked about what the kids would think, W said they woudl hate her. I didn;t respond at first, but now am thinking "yeah so, you're the one who wants to leave our family, not me, why wouldn;t they hate you for that?"
Kind of crass but truthful. I've been debating about how to tell the kids what is going on and trying to find the right time and place to do that. No more waiting. Especially with my D18 - I will let her know tonight that we are having issues. I won't go into details, but I will let her know that her mother has decided that she doesn't know if she wants to be married any more and is thinking about moving out. I will let her know that I love her and this has nothing to do with her. I will take control of being a good dad and letting them know what I think they need to know. It will be up to W to talk to them on her terms. But now, it's on my terms.
