instead be completely open to the idea that you have no clue who she has become, and begin getting to know the "new her"?
Sign me up for the clueless club. How do you begin to know the "new her" when you are seeing the same old her over and over?
THANK you! Prescisely my point. Hell, even the past TWO WEEKS hasn't been "new" in any way.
All I'm seeing here is an AWFUL lot of supposition and projection about who my wife IS, based on how some other women in their 40s are. I'm not saying those desires aren't IN there somewhere -- I'm sure that, biologically, if nothing else -- they are. But I am saying that without some serious counseling on her end, and a sincere willingness to do the hard work necessary on her end, that they're NOT going to come out, and I'm further saying that it's HER responsibility to do that, not mine. All I can do is make her feel loved and safe enough to do so, but I can't do it for her.
