But really Puppy....can you just try to let go of the first 15 years as evidence of who she is and what she wants, and instead be completely open to the idea that you have no clue who she has become, and begin getting to know the "new her"?
I'm not just using the first 15 years! If she was doing something now, during the last 5, that was dramatically different, it would be one thing, but she's not. She's rarely interested in sex, and she only seems to allow herself to open up and be intimate and close with me when faced with the reality of losing me. WHY IS THAT SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND???
People go where they're invited. My wife has rejected me for most of the past 20 years, finally in the ultimate form of rejection -- an affair -- two years ago. If she's so "changed" and fired-up with the new sexual passion of a woman in her 40s, then why in the hell didn't she try that with her HUSBAND, before she did it with some pimple-faced boy half her age???
No, this isn't about SEX. It's about VALIDATION, and how much she needs it vs. how much I'm willing to give it, even as none of my needs are met.
Sometimes things are complex. And sometimes they're not.
