Wow! I sure hate to hear all of that b/c I am thinking you are probably right. I think that in years down the road (how many nobody knows)....she will see how bad a mistake she made. I am concerned that she is headed for a downward spiral of terrible emotional sadness of ups and downs in her life where this OM is concerned. However, you need to think about you and the kids.
I don't know what your laws are, but I would get the children as much as possible since their Mother is having an affair. I am usually not this quick to make a "decision" about a stitch, but I am sorry to say that I agree with your last post. I do think this will take a long time. What you need to do is to really work hard to emotionally divorce her as quick as you can b/c she will suck you back into a R with her b/c you will feel sorry for her seeing her hurt like she is going to be hurting. If/when she is on a emotional "high", then you will feel like you could despise her......so it is for "your" good to detach from her all the way.
Again, I am so sorry. I hope you will continue to stay on the board for support b/c you will need it throughout this ordeal.
Take Care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
