There is a lot that can happen between your filing and it being official. In my case, she was on the fence for a while after her anger of my filing had settled down. Right before it was official, she asked for a second chance, but it was too late for me and it appeared to me that she was only doing it to save face.
If you do file, it does give you some feeling of being in control of your life. I think the key to any hope of reconciliation will be how Dan's actions are during the time after filing.
