I already laid those out to her. Not sure if she heard them, but I'm assuming she did since she got so defensive right away.
I understand making it about the boundries and not dictating behavior. Thank you - I was thinking about making controlling messages.
I have to keep reminding myself (and maybe asking everyone here to remind me) that the type of affair makes no difference. Emotional, physical, she is having a relationship with another man. 50 texts a day between the two of them is not normal.
I want her to get help and get better. I want to "push" her toward that goal. I have to stop that. I have to keep reminding myself of that.
I am not going to initiate the follow up conversation. I'm leaving it up to her to initiate.
What is my tactic if she says she wants to talk, I give her the boundary message and she then responds with yes, I heard you but I still want to talk. Do I just sit and listen or say not until I'm convinced that you have ended the affair?
Sorry for asking so many questions on how to react/respond - I need some help and support on this since I didn't follow your directions in the first place. I want to make sure I don't make another mistake.
