Not knowing what you're moving forward to isn't necessarily a bad thing. There's a difference between goal-directed behavior ("this year I will take up fly-fishing" or whatever) and goal-limiting behavior ("this year I will take up fly-fishing and only fly-fishing, even though I live nowhere near a trout stream").
Set goals; achieve goals; set higher goals. Let the river take you where it will. All you can control right now is how hard you paddle and when you float with the tide.
She's going to do it her way. No reason for you not to as well.
