I agree totally with all the above, however, song, I know...KNOW..you still feel the need to do otherwise...or fix...as Sandi says.

After being punched long enough, you are going to go down to the mat in a sense. However, if you need a thought....

I asked my W to see a priest. HE asked her to do Retrouvaille. I gave her a brochure and an email of a woman who succeeded. It was all for nought....hence...I support the above posts.

If you need to backslide....and need to do this (and this is NOT what I would do)...you could order a brochure from Retrouvaille...put it in a blank card....tell her she is free to leave and that you will now move forward without her...but...that you are available to her yada yada. AFter that.....you can't call or pursue....and as Kevin and Sandi suggest, turn it over to G-d and just stop all this crap and start getting to work on yourself.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;