I think my cousin summed it up. He's been married for over 30 years.
Originally Posted By: my cousin

Marriage isn't for everybody


What is ironic...I think..is at every bar mitzvah...every wedding...somewhere....an elderly couple gets introduced as being married for x number of years (x >30-50)...and they get a standing ovation.

Why?

Think.

Women will get a tear in their eye and everyone says to themselves ...wow....they really love each other. How many commercials have we seen where you seen the young couple holding hands and walking by the old couple...holding hands? Didn't we say...that will be me?

I believe that most of us probably just choose wrong...people put on masks, as is intimated in The New Earth. It takes energy to keep these masks on and, after a period, the mask comes off and two people are faced with.....themselves.

Sometimes, I think it is better to ask oneself questions instead of look for answers:
1) Why did I choose this person?
2) Did I miss some signs that there could be trouble with a longterm committment?
3) Where did I fail myself along the way and what do I need to do to course correct my path in life so that I stay on the right road?
4) How do I avoid repeating mistakes and what failsafe systems will I program into my automatic servo-mechanism to prevent this from happening again?
5) What do I need to do to replace self-blame and victimization with growth, acceptance and self-love?
6) Finally, have I learned enough to know that life is about change..involves risk..and will I have the courage to find love again if I so choose?

Then...if we are here for too long on this website..the biggest question is......why?

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;