Thanks DQ for the thoughts, That is my struggle, I know I can not change what she thinks and does, and I also try to pretend they don't exist. I am just not that good at it, and the D is heading this way, we meet with the D mediator on Thursday of this week.
There's no PA at this time, I don't know how I could handle that either, and wonder how people can get through that. Again, I suppose that's a 'what if' and I need to stop doing the 'what if's'
Hard is true, this is the hardest thing I think I have faced outside of Death's in the family. In some sense, this is the death of the M, so I am feeling a lot of the same emotions, I think..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."