Shoe is on the other foot now- HELP

[RedHeadWife]

It has been 2 yrs since my D sitch and I still struggle w/ the trust issue. I don't really have any real 'reason' to still be distrustful of H, but it's a very hard thing to 'get over' or 'get control of' if you know what I mean.

I actually have become more open w/ H as far as the trust issue goes. For example, he now has a woman (younger) working under him @ work and I actually asked him if I needed to worry about this. We have become "friends" w/ her as she is a single mom w/ a little boy, so she's actually babysat for us and we have had a BBQ together, etc., but H knows that I need him to be completely open about this whole thing. She had to call him yesterday twice for work issues, and he actually told me that she had called & told me why.

Anyway, I guess I've gotten to the point where I'm not 'scared' anymore to just be honest about the whole trust thing. I don't want him to think that I am constantly thinking he cheating again, but if a certain sitch arises, I want to be able to openly talk about it.

I guess I'm just trying to reassure you that the whole trust issue is hard to conquer once we've been through having a H who actually has cheated on us. It's not something anyone could understand if it hasn't actually happened to them.

Forgiving & forgetting are two totally different things. Also, deciding that we're not going to continue to walk on egg shells for the rest of our M and just be open w/ our H helps a lot too.