My W has complained in the past that I am to controlling. So i have been trying to do a 180 let go and let her do what she wants to do without asking. How can I stop enabling the A without pushing her away though? She got her own cell phone and calls from the OM's house and even cooked a meal at our house for them one night. When I came home early and found it in her car she got real angry and I just acted like I didn't know to avoid conflict. She keeps lying to me saying shes at work. Could it be out of guilt? Or maybe because she doesn't want to hurt me. I guess its probably what her L is telling her to do so I cant have any ammo. She comes to the house while Im at work and loads up her car and acts like I don't know that our stuff is missing out of the house. I don't want to push her away any more then I have but I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and I need to stop the cake eating. I don't want to be a doormat! I'm so lost...I cant believe that this is my wife acting like this.
