Also, I believe this has been pointed out to you before .... but the abovementioned behaviors are overwhelmingly unlikely to reveal that she thinks she is all that and a box of chips. You take two hours to get ready when you are desperately thrashing around to find something that doesn't make you look revoltingly hideous (in your mind). Put that together with her Google searches and yes, even the affair ... to me that adds up to someone trying to fill a howling wilderness within.
