Thanks everyone for your replies and support I really do need it right now. I have not had a good day today. It is all I can think about right now. WHY WHY WHY. Still I have no answers. It all seems so unfair. I know he has been spending lots, buying designer gear etc using his credit card. Got to impress the ow. I don't know him anymore he has changed so much in 6 weeks. It is very hard to comprehend what he has done but he shows no regret, just that we all have to adjust to life without him and carry on regardless. How selfish can someone be.