Mr. Mom....you may need to protect yourself from seeing her for child drop off. Could you ask her to drop off the kids at a relative or friends house so you can avoid seeing her? The point here is so that you can garner your strength and not breakdown with sadness again every time you have to see her. This is not unusual for couples to do. Sometimes they do it so as not to cause fights in front of the kids. You both do need to sheild the kids from your own emotions to an extent.
Sorry you are hear and you sound so devastated...my heart goes out to you.
