Learning to Detach

[In Limbo]

KJ,

I see so many similarities in our sitches and am anxious to hear the advice any of the vets have for you. I did get advice a while back to not say anything you don't believe and that may mean at first being more generic like sometimes adults have problems getting along, their love for each other changes, etc. and that both parties play a part in those changes. I have a hard time with that b/c I think kids will want to know more. I'm in the same position - don't want to make H look bad or blame him but also do not want to say I am in favor of something I am so against. Your girls are old enough that they will form their own opinions based on your behavior and H's behavior. You have to stay true to yourself and just choose carefully what you say to them about their dad. Hope you get some advice from others soon.
Take care!