I really think I could forgive my W, but I know it's much easier said than done. It would depend a lot on how she was acting toward me. If by her actions I could see her continual desire to make amends(very attentive toward me, very supportive of me, much light physical contact, sexually adventurous but aware I may have some residual feelings about my hurt in this area and be willing to be patient to work throug them), I would slowly accept her apology and let go of the resentment. I think within the first year, we could be well on our way to complete healing. I really don't know if she has this in her though.
Given how wrapped up in the OM she is, I know I'm looking at probably another year before that may really be over. I can't hold off my life that long, so we're really going on our own paths now. The kids will keep us in constant touch, and I'll continue to be a very involved co-parent. I still do love my W very much, and I'll try to pack that away and bury it deep. I've learned to accept that predicting the future is impossible.
