I am so pleased you have busted a divorce, it is very encouraging to hear.
Your sitch sounded so much like alot of others here including mine. It sounds like DR'ing and patience is the key here, in my case my wife does not want C, just straight to D. I do not have enough time to DR successfully as the D goes through in a matter of weeks. I will continue to DR and hope she will see that I am a better man for it and may decide to reconcile.
You will know how I and alot of other posters are feeling, but with your inspiration maybe we can salvage our marriages.
Best wishes to you.
Mark
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years