So here's an update ... It's been almost 4 weeks since W and I have spoken. I called her on Sunday to let her know she can pick up the car insurance than she had been complaining about. I got the voicemail and haven't heard anything back. So I figure if it is THAT big of a deal, she'll call or something. Last night I decided to go for a walk around the neighborhood ... and I ran in to her (she lives only a few blocks away). She says hi, then starts walking with me on her way home (I assume). I'm chipper and happy, pretending like I just saw her yesterday. So I asked her if she wanted to get the paperwork or if she wanted to do it later. My apartment is past hers, so we walk there talking. Every time there is a lull, she's quick to keep talking. We did talk about our living arrangement a little. My lease is up at the end of July so I told her that I was debating whether I wanted to renew or move closer to work. I commute about 1 1/2 hours each way, so something closer would be easier on me. She tells me her lease is already up, but hasn't renewed. She's looking for a cheaper place, but likes her neighbors, but still hasn't renewed. So fine ...
We get to my place and I'm frustrated and ask her "is this what you really want?" I know, no R talk. Her reply was "normal doesn't apply to us." Ok. I don't know what that means. It was all very vague and circular. So, I dropped it. It wasn't a big talk, just testing the waters a little. So we get to my apartment and she sits down on a chair outside and starts talking about this friend she knows, said she's been wanting to ask for my advice on some immigration issue. I know NOTHING about immigration and she knows this, so it is a weird question for her to ask. We end up talking about life stuff for about an hour on my porch. It's all very nice and engaging.
The conversation starts to lull and she keeps finding reasons to keep talking. So, after a little while I say "look, I have some stuff to do I will talk to you later." I get up ... she hugs me (!) and then I go inside. Normally, I would walk her home, but this time I just took my hug and turned around, which would be a 180 for me.
I know I shouldn't have brought up things with us. I think it is a good sign that she wanted to talk so much. Right? I'm still thinking of not initiating any contact. Thoughts anyone?
