Could use some insight...long...

[Startingover2]

Exh and I are the same way. When he comes to see baby the first few minutes are tense. Then we start chatting about something trivial or watch baby and laugh and it becomes so comfortable. Like old times (when he was sober). It makes me so sad as when he walks out the door who knows what world he enters then.

My advice to you is communicate to her that you really dont want the D, but make sure you protect yourself legally. I wouldn't be a jerk, but if this is truly what she wants then so be it, but you won't lose time with your kids in the process.