PM Thread #5 - Hope new plan works

[PositivelyMommy]

Thank you all so much JCJ, 25yrsMLC and Mark. I was feeling pretty down and you guys have pulled me up AGAIN. I was second guessing myself because my words were coming from a place of hurt and I thought maybe I had sounded too harsh. But as JCJ said, I had to be harsh and set boundaries.

Yes, H really doesn't think the kids will find out about A. He is THAT naive right now. Fog thinking. So I told him, you know our kids will grow up and they are REALLY smart, they will understand what happened. He didn't like that at all. So in essence I was trying to say that 'you think you have everyone fooled. You don't. I know what happened and the kids will figure it out too. I REALLY want them to have a father but I don't know how to tell them what went wrong without them thinking badly of you.'

So I guess everyone is right here, he has to face reality again and is not liking it. He has been cake-eating so long and not have to deal with any consequences. Well, the consequences are going to be coming on fast soon.

Me, I am imagining living with my family, having a lot more open spaces, going swimming with kids. Can't wait.

25yrsMLC, as always, your analysis was thorough and well-thought out. I am re-reading it again and let you know if I have questions. Thanks also for pointing out how to deal with the kids, it's at the forefront of my mind right now so your input really helps. I DO NOT want to damage them. I hope I can manage.