For what it is worth, that sounds like pursuing to me. You can't do now, what you didn't do then in that regard. It is likely to just provoke derision. Michelle writes about it as giving the impression that we are trying to buy our spouyses affection. It sounds like we have a fairly similar sitch. One guy's advice would be to focus on GAL and detaching. I mean really detach. Don't look over your shoulder for a reaction. Detach. Find a way to live your life without waiting for her. And the good news is, no matter what happens, you will be better prepared for your future.
