Could use some insight...long...

[Startingover2]

Just caught up on your thread...have your wife talk with me! J/K. You are doing everything I wished my exh would have done. You saw your problem and got help. I am not quite understanding why your W has such an issue of trust that she didn't know about the addiction until after. I don't know many active addicts that announce they are addicts at the dinnertable. When they are in active addiction, they hide it. They want no one to discover it. I am guessing you did too.

Bottom line to me is...you had a problem and got help. That is huge. Unless I am missing some bad behavior somewhere, not sure what her 'trust' issue is or how long she wants to keep the limbo up.

You are sure doing your part in wanting to save the M. Is she willing to go to MC? It may be a good idea to see what her hesitation to recommitting is. 2 years is a long time. Kassie's H is doing well but it hasn't been that long. Mine is still in the gutter and no signs of recovery.

Thanks for posting on my thread. I hope I can help you too.