Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Sandi,

Thanks for your feedback. I've been reading a lot of the posts in the MLC forum and I've come to the same conclusion you've spoken. I will go check out the folks you recommend and ask around for advice. But right now I don't think I can continue this facade. I am not a person with great self-esteem anyway and living in this environment where I'm not good enough to be his wife but good enough to be his maid, cook, errand runner, sex provider, etc. while he lies, pursues someone else and keeps me out of most all parts of his life is draining me and I feel quite used. We have MC session Thursday and I think it's time to get real and make the separation more formal. I'm not saying D, but a full separation. If he files for D, so be it. I am not prepared to do that at this time, but don't think it's healthy to continue with the current arrangement either.