I am sorry you are here. My wife filed after the bomb was dropped on me in ecember '08. We will be divorced after 15 years together and two children S7 and D10.
You have to try and understand she is in a different state of mind now that she is in another relationship. She feels she wants to move on with her life and there is nothing you and do or say to make her change her mind at the moment. Even though you said she has been in another relationship for a few weeks, it is more than likely she was probably in an EA before that. Did you get any gut feelings or were you made aware things were not right between you?
Read as much as you can on other threads and you will see many similarities between yours and many other posters here.
The only thing you can control at the moment is YOU and your CHILDREN. Make sure they are looked after in this traumatic time, try to look after yourself, get the DR book, read, go to the gym, anything that will take your mind of your situation for the moment.
I think she wants you to date other people so that she can justify what she is doing, so don't fall for it even if you did wnat to date which I'm sure you don't. She is obviously very confused and it dosen't look completely finished IMO. Give her space and time to think things through, pursuing her will make things worse so back off and let her initiate contact, do not chase.
I, like you have until July before we are divorced. I am trying everything in my power to reconcile, but I now realise that may only happen after we are divorced. Even then she may never come back, but I will try and do the best for my children and me and that is the most important thing right now.
Get the book and go the Last Resort Technique and see if it will help your situation.
Keep posting as more seasoned posters with more experience than me will help you.
Best wishes,
Mark
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
