A new thread, a new outlook.....

[markhaving probs]

Hi Kev,

I hope you and the Weeman are well.

I have just been catching up on your situation and I agree with you about getting the birthday dates of your in-laws. You are lucky to have such supportive PIL, as mine have not contacted me at all since December '08. I have been in their company since, but they have never offered any support, help or even offered a condolence about our marriage.

If you look at my 'dropping the rope' thread since you last looked at it there has been some develpoments in regard to the jealousy strategy.

when my wife came over to pick the children up on Sunday I wrote a phone number down with the letter 'J' above it. I put it on the coffee table by the childrens bags so that she would see it. When she left I switched off my mobile and within 15 minutes the landline number rang which I ignored, then I quickly turned on my mobile and there was one voicemail and one text message. The reason she rang was because I had forgotten to give her some money I owed, but the first thing she said on the voicemail was..."You couldn't wait to get out of the house quick enough". She went on about it and thinks I have now got a
girlfriend!!

She rang again at 8.00pm Sunday night which I ignored. she rang again 7.50am Monday morning to talk about the money and also to mention about this girlfriend thing. I did not confirm or deny her statement. The conversation ended reasonably civil.

She then rang AGAIN at 11'ish on Monday to ask me to help her purchase a tramploine for the children and asked me to help her erect it. This is the first time she has asked to assist her in anything, is it coincidence? Check to see what pearlhbr said om my sitch.

Kev, gucci swears by this and Puppy and Pearlhbr also think this can be a good strategy. The thing here is I have not lied to her, though if she asked me outright I would tell her so I am not being deceitful. If for some reason your wife believes you have a girlfriend play on it a bit, see what reaction you get. She may see you really are moving on and it might get her thinking. Check my sitch out and see the posts from Pearl and Kara for things to do.

It may not make a blind bit of difference to my situation, but I am continuing to be the best father I can while trying to DR to the best of my ability. I am just sprinkling another ingredient to my imaginary pie to see what works.

All the best Kev,

Mark