Hi Innishannon I have been reading your thread. I can only say I know what you are going through as my story is so very similar to yours. My H has so much anger towards me that I find myself unable to communicate with him. He left me 6 weeks ago for another woman who he had only been seeing for about 8 weeks previous. He moved straight into her house, she also has children. We have 3. What kind of a woman would let a man who see did not know into her home with her children. God know how they cope, still they may be used to it. I think she has done this before. He is besotted with her, thinks he loves her etc etc. All the years we had 20 in total seem to mean nothing to him. His behaviour is the same as your H. I never really thought a mlc was a real illness but the more I read the more I think it is. The character traits and behaviours all fit. The anger and running away all make sense. Whether they ever come to their senses or not remains to be seen but the damage they do can never really be repaired can it? I have also received e-mails from my H regarding access which I have not replied to and would not, if he cannot talk to me face to face then he can forget it. My H wanted sleep overs immediately with our children which I point blankly refused. He could not understand why I did not want this. Is he crazy or what. Like you I am going to protect my children. They do not need to be a part of their r now or in the near future. They are not in an established relationship yet. It is as if he wants it all but just not with me in it. If I wasn't around then all would be good for him. I am the problem. NOT. When I look at him he has changed so much I barely recognise him anymore. He is bombastic, arogant and not a nice person to be around. One day though he will have to live with what he has done and recognise the person he has become then and only then will he come to understand the damage he has done to us all.
