Hi everyone, Thank you so much for everything........you have given me great comfort and the more that I think about what is happening the more I realise just how out of control my H is and how much I need to detach and GAL; also to protect myself and my D.
My H sent me a letter via his solicitor (email) yesterday morning informing me, with about 4 hours to spare, that he would be collecting our D7 from school at 2.40pm and returning her to put her to bed around 9pm. He did this last Friday and I let it go thinking that it was a one of incidence in direct relation to the barring order hearing last Thursday. It was obvious yesterday that he has such a huge amount of rage towards me and will proceed as and how he wishes, regardless of the upset he is causing people.
I refused this via responding email/letter as I had arranged for our D to have friends over in the afternoon. I also thought enough is enough; I am not going to be treated like this, no more. I decided to go down to her school early as he did not respond and I did not want a repeat performance of Friday. I arrived at about 2.15 to find him already there, on his phone (prob his L). I got out f teh car and calmly discussed things with him. I looked at him, he looks strange in teh face, distorted and troubled. He agreed that he did get the message and thankfully backed off, I am not sure whether his L told him to or not. He accepted the state of play.....but was so raging underneath, he was simmering.I asked whether he would be picking our D up today (tuesday) and taking her till bed time as proposed by me in my email on Friday to him; he said in a tense voice through gritted teeth that I would hear from his solicitor on the matter. he then drove off.
why is this man doing this; is he losing his mind? I am worried that our D is being affected now; this morning she wet her bed for the first time in 4 years........last night she was sobbing saying that she was confused about her Daddy not being here any more; she was also crying and asked me what were we going to do about Daddy? I asked her what she meant and she asked me whether she would live or die and whether we would be poor. I am so worried about this; the more chaos and upset he causes the more he seems to be disinterested. and the more I am convinced that he has committed to the OW and he is becoming more and more detached from me and my D. He doesnt even speak to her now, no phone calls, no contact, unless he has her in his access times. He woudlnt know how she is going or what she is doing.
I am also concerned that he will be trying to take D to OW house, where she has two teenage sons 11 and 14. I am vigilant about protecting her against all of this upset.
Would really appreciate some feedback; I feel like I am in such a nightmare.Does he honestly know what he is doing?
