confused.....want to do something.....

[pearlharbr]

Sounds like a great day - good for you.

You may not think you're trying to manipulate your H but that's the way it comes across. You're talking to him the same way you always have. So you need to be mindful of your communication. That's why it's easier to just have as little contact as possible at this point.

I have been reacting to what I thought H might be doing.......I just need to get to a place where I am not thinking about him....

Yes, exactly. This hits two issues: don't try to be a mind reader and lovingly detach.

I'm sure you will do better tomorrow. Have fun shopping!