He will see you as a woman when he sees that other men see you as a woman and want you.
Kalni,
I'm with Sara. Has he actually seen another man want you? There's a huge difference between him hypothetically thinking about you with someone else and actually seeing it with his own two eyes.
I've loosely followed your threads for a long time, and gather that you are a beautiful, vibrant woman, and that you are also frustrated and stuck. Maybe now is the time to shake things up and cultivate some male friendships in your local community. It doesn't have to be anything more than platonic. I see it as a win-win for you: self-esteem boost, primarily, but also a wake-up call for your H.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
