Thanks to all who posted. I am absolutely grateful for the cold hard truth and also the advice. I made it through today strong and went for a long bike ride. I absolutely did not know where to turn today and reading your posts tonight was wonderful. I bit the bullet and called for an phone counseling session tomorrow afternoon. Has anyone done that?
All my life I've been the nurturer for others and it has been very hard to focus on myself, but I know it is necessary. Like I had said H wanted to reconcile and than 2 weeks later, Saturday a.m., H dropped the bomb. All my DB techniques and my feelings of self worth flew out the window.
Shouldn't H move out? It is hard having someone tell you they want the marriage over and than every day you see them and I also work with him that adds to the temptation to start talking about R, but I promise I will stay strong.
