Ali. I am so excited about your books and your art!
I want to say something:
THIS IS A *****NEW***** RELATIONSHIP
repeat this to yourself over and over. THIs is a NEW RELationship This is a NEW romance This is a NEW relationship This is a NEW romance
you can't expect him to act like your Boyfriend or bring you dinner or offer you anything "caretaker-y"
Relish the opportunity to start over. you are creating something new. don't expect to pick up where you left off. This is a precious opportunity to create something BETTER than before. That means not instantly re-activating old partner patterns, no matter how reassuring they may be or how stressed and busy you are.
Also.. remember the four steps? 1. letting go of anger 2. friendship 3. romance 4. recommitment
The romance has to come BEFORE the recommitment. Even though I personally would love the reassurance of recommitment before diving into the terror of romance, romance comes first.
This means... slow down... treat it like a new ROMANCE. Not like a new committed relationship. I *know* that you love jumping in headfirst and that is your lifelong pattern. But now is the time to do things differently.
I am very excited for you and eagerly reading along. Sending you buckets of love and PATIENCE. TR
