What you want/deserve may not be a realistic expectation from this man. Do you compromise for the sake of your kids? You know how I feel about that one. You being miserable does not provide a stable home and upbringing for your kids. Teaching them to be strong enough to stand up for themselves is the true lesson they need.
So I was not telling you to accept what he is offering. I was telling you to be realistic about it and decide if it is really what you want. To look at him and decide if he can ever be what you want and can live with.
K, when is the last time you were held, not made love to, just held and felt that feeling of warmth and security that you are so obviously craving right now? I wonder if you can answer this honestly for me, do you believe that he will be able to make you feel truly loved and like you have a passionate marriage again? When is the last time you held him in that manner, I mean just held on to him and let him feel that he is loved? How did he react? How would he react if you did it now?
