As we started touching on subjects, she got a little agitated. When I saw this happening, I basically gave the statements I wrote above - that did not go over well. I said I again that I preferred we work on this marriage, but she is choosing to not do so.
She said she "has no choice" and I am the one that made the choice by my actions over the past few years. She said she could never want to be with me because she didn't trust me (from the snooping) and had not loved me for a long time so why would I want to still be with her? She said she didn't want to be around me because of the pain I had caused her. She said she is very angry with me, resents me, thinks it is crappy that I am going back on "my word" on not fighting her on the split.
I'm sorry, I don't mean to smirk, but that is all soooooo much "script" it's not even funny. If I had a nickel for every time I read almost EXACTLY the same thing on these boards!!
btw, you handled yourself VERY well. Learn to make a habit out of "I'm sorry you feel that way," and "I understand that must be difficult for you," etc.
Learn to make a habit out of "I'm sorry you feel that way," and "I understand that must be difficult for you," etc.
