Oldtimers: IS Mlcer good parent after crises?

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MWG
thanks for visiting and posting

I do not feel I did anything to XH
my kids are ok
if anything they feel some abandonment- hard not to as XH is moody and unavailable at times
but I did what I had to to protect the 3 of us
I dont know who she is and needed time to process this
I think XH would have done all this withdrawing anyway even if I wouldnt have stopped him from taking them overnights and meeting her

X and I will start coparenting next week I think if I use this therapist( im not totally sure about her yet)
a good therapist is important
im not sure what will happen in therapy with x after all this time apart

X still shows NO signs of any reconncecting to any of us
he is still using presciption meds anti anxiety to cope
he is still in debt (alot)
a lot of weight gain
the only movement I see from this end of the tunnel is H moving further away although I sense he may be searching for help
thus his willingness to go to co parenting with me
these sessiosn were advisied by the mediator and H agreed, so he bascically has to go but seems willing
peace