Learning to Detach

[peacetoday]

K
I was freaked also when my H filed
I think they think it is the closure they may need to feel better
only
it really doesnt work as my XH is worse since D..but I still believe they have to go the distance before they can really see or know what they want
there are a few approaches ive read about and also what I chose:

You can let him do all the work make the D as difficult as possible
or
contest it
many Mlcer file and never continue with the process
my X filed and stopped
his L never answered my L for months
until the state pushed the D along
you can find out the proceedings in your state
or
you can treat this like any business deal( this is what I did)
protecting yourself and your children
knowing that H is NOT the same
he will blow thru any and all money he gets
he is probably being influenced by the ow
and he will take half the house and anything else he can get
so
get a good L
one friend told me "dont be Cheap when it comes to L"
check a L repuatation and see if other clients were satified
also many L will give a reduced rate consultation and you can get lots of information about the process

it is hard to DB while going thru this b/c you have to protect yourself
these mlcers are like tornadoes destoying everything within reach
but you can let your L handle the dirty work
If it actually gets this far
so take it slow
breathe ..
you will know more later
just take care of yourself for now
you are very smanrt and will be ok
peace