Ok, lets review.... when was your divorce finalized???
There is always a reaction to this day in one form or another. Generally guilt driven. I mean really Trapt, is this that hard to figure out or are you just reaching out here to get validation for what you already know in your heart?
Let me see if I can get in your head a little. She calls, leaves a message, emails, whatever. You say to yourself, "hmmm maybe she is realizing she made a mistake" or " hmmm, maybe she feels guilty and is trying to be my friend." So you kind of have your answer. Instead of running with that you come here and post things like.... " I just don't get it" " I don't understand" " what is she doing"
So, is it so bad? Is it really bugging you or do you secretly get off on the fact that she is initiating so much contact? My guess would be the latter..... I told you this is far from over...... Keep staying dark.... keep living your life..... See what happens down the road.......
No grumpy, LMAO. I don't secretly get off on this. Actually I would like nothing more than to be left alone right now. The divorce has only been final for about a month.
Yes you did tell me this is far from over and unless she is a robot she probably does feel guilty.
I am a ghost who is living his life and trying to get MY sh*t straight. I just thought I would post a few updates about what is happening. So chill out with your trigger happy, tree trunk swinging self and smile with me punk.
Flip flops Ian.....freakin flip flops. What are we talking about here?? FLIP FLOPS.
I just paid my mortgage and I now have about 20 bucks to my name and I'm getting emails about? You guessed it, flip flops and what not.
I am midnight dark my friend and I will stay that way. I do have a couple of people intrested in my boat so hopefully I can get rid of it soon. I hate to do it but I have to. They make them every day, I'll get another one down the road.
I did get in touch with a friend who is making some nice money and he is planning on helping me get started doing pretty much the same thing he is. So with some hard work I will be getting out of this mess in the near future. I'm focused on that right now and taking easy laying low so to speak.
Hi, Trapt, I am with you on the money issues...my income is very irregular because of the nature of my business, and I have had numerous occasions where I said, "Okay, how can I survive on this $30 until I get paid for some more work? I think I will be getting a new order in next week..." And H is out buying $900.00 guitars for himself and spending several hundred dollars a month on OW...and he wants me to start paying for the mortgage and utilities here (since he doesn't like paying the expenses for the house he chose to move out of, on top of his apartment expenses).
Oh yeah, we're in MLC-ville, where 2+2 = whatever the MLCer wants it to equal.
I'm sorry to hear about the D being finalized, but it sounds like you are doing well, Trapt. Hope you are finding your way okay in reality, not just the way it sounds. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
The dollar menu at McDonalds rocks dude... I have been below 20 many times recently.
I did not say you were getting off on it you dumbasss. What I said is that you know the answers to the questions you are asking.
I stopped calling it dark myself, I just call it being myself. I don't really have anything to say to Carrie, much like you with your ex.
I play softball on 3 teams right now, Tuesday nights, Wednesday nights, and Sundays. I also coach U14 boys soccer on Mondays and Sundays. I also am going to school online at night which averages about 2.5 hours a night of studying.
Flip flops my friend is merely code word. It could be binkies. It could be underwear. It could be shampoo. Later in life, it could be tampons. It's not about the item, it's about the co-parenting that she in her freakishly insane mind is trying to do.
Carrie called me out of the blue the other day to talk about my sons reaction to the dog dying. She talked to me for 30 minutes (our longest convo in about 8 months). She talked to me all about the dog. She talked about my school. She talked about stuff that is absolutely bizarre to talk about for someone who isn't providing her fair share for our daughter. She just talked.
I called Ty immediately after the talk and said the same things that you posted. Direct quote from me to Ty " what the hell was that all about, I mean is it just me or is that fricken nuts?" (fricken is not a direct quote I used a different word all together.)
It's like a bird flying into a window in front of you. You saw it happen, but you still say what the hell was that? Because we don't expect it, we don't understand how it happens, and we don't quite grasp the reality of what has occurred.
So now if you want to listen to me instead of being little mister defensive poopy pants guy, you will see that what I am saying is that you want validation for the insanity that just flew into a window in front of you. I get it. After you get that validation, then it's ok to say, "yeah, thats what I thought."
I think your doing fine dude. The finances will come together, just keep plugging away. Watch the show that is your wifes behavior from the sidelines dude. Your gonna see a lot of crazy shitt for a while. My best guess in your situation is that she will pull the old pop in on you bullshitt that many of them do within the next 2-3 weeks.
Can't wait to read your crazy batchitt post when that one happens.
Thats the funny thing about all of this.I am staying positive. The old me would be all worked up and worried. Everything will work out some way some how. Yep 20 bucks right now. Come on ebay!!! LOL!!
I was just going to recommend the dollar menu...hey theres lots of good shiznit on it!!!!!!
You are the bomb T!!!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Yeah dark needs a new name and in the back of my mind Yes, I was thinking this flip flop crap was just pulling the strings.
I always listen to you dude. Mr. freakin poopy pants!!! LMAO!! I think my whole Alan Iverson "practice" (google it) imitation about the filp flops flew over your head. "What are we talking about here?"
Anyway... I hope I don't get the pop in thing man. Not that I have anything to hide, I've just had my fill of crazy for a life time.
Seriously though I do hope and pray she gets it together one day. My only option is to keep working hard and hitting the dollar menu for now.
Ice cream can wait until next time.