confused.....want to do something.....

[judyc]

Actually, I do have something to add. I purchased a book yesterday (actually several books), and one I recommend is "The First 30 Days" by Ariane de Bonvoisim. It helps you cope with (and embrace) change, not just relationship changes, but any change (job, illness, moving to a new town, etc.). The book encourages meeting change with optimism, not fear. A good (and easy) read.