Blindsided - Here is wishing a fresh supply of batteries for you. BOB may not have all the angles, but he'll get you there. : )
Lord, what I wouldn't give for just a teensy weensy piece of cake.
KJ
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Well, the child support is a sore subject for me. I've started the process and I hate that I have to do this. I feel like I am doing something "to him". But, I have to. I have to. After everything he has put me through and the way he has treated me, why does it still hurt to know that I am going to be hurting him even though he did this to himself. OMG...I am totally co-dependant. I just have to dust off my balls and get moving.....
Sorry, I just hate that it has come to this. Today has been a little cathartic for me...posting to SO2...made me realize that I really need to heed my own advice. It makes total sense and seems so perfectly logical and easy looking from the outside in. It truly is a different story to turn the focus to your own issues. But, it helped to give some advice...even if I haven't been the greatest success story in the world or even the room.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
You are right..I look at your sich and think I know what you should be doing with your H. Then I look at mine and feel so lost, but the thing is they are very similar in alot of ways. WE know what we need to do. WE both just need to heed our own advice.
Get the ball rolling with the CS like yesterday! Its for your daughter. She is less than a year old. Do you really want to be dealing with him on this for another 17 years?
Love you....
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I started the process with the CS. It's going to take about 3 months, but at least I have begun.
H called at 6:45am this morning....started with Sex talk. I blew him off and then said I had to go take K to school. He's weird. The guy is dillusional.
I'm in a pretty decent mood today...hope everyone has a great weekend. I'm thinking BBQ and my pool just got cleaned. Sounds like a plan.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Started with sex talk at 6:45? Where the heck was OW? Ewwwww...I love that you shut him down.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Sex talk at 6:45? The guy really has a problem. You mean the OW isn't SATISFYING HIS EVERY SEXUAL NEED? Did you advise him to discuss his needs with his current partner and express regret that she wasn't doing it for him?
Next! Love that you started the CS thing. It isn't going to hurt him as much as it would hurt your daughter for you not to do it. You will get over the feeling. Hug that baby for me.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Ewwwww...your H and my exh are walking herpes. Mine asked me last night if "I wanted some num num". Sicko.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
They're crazy. So, I didn't talk to H until he dropped K off on Saturday. It was actually a pleasant conversation. The funny thing is, he kept going checking to see if he had a text on his phone and then it rang about 5 minutes after he got there. Then he quickly said "Daddy has to go K. Love you." Kissed her and bolted. I could see him on the phone when he was going around the corner. Man, what a tight little leash she has on him. That would drive me absolutely crazy. But, maybe he thinks that is love. In my experience....if you have to keep an eye on your significant other every minute you are apart...texting, phone calls, making them accountable for every minute...then you obviously don't trust them and/or you are untrustworthy and projecting. It just goes to show you that no matter how tight your leash...they can still find a way to cheat, if they want to.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Oh, and how nice is K's father not to even check to see if we were okay after the earthquake....such a considerate man. And, on Saturday, he told me that he wanted to wait to take her full weekends...that it's really hard for him to have both the babies when he has no help (OW works graveyard on weekends). I almost laughed...here he is giving me sh!t because he doesn't get to see his D enough...I keep him from seeing her and lo and behold...he can't handle it. What about that 50/50 now, H?
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Maybe you should have laughed. He would have asked why you were laughing and you could have said, oh, no particular reason. Let him see himself reflected a little. : )
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
